Changing Your Inner Voice: From Criticism to Compassion
Have you ever found yourself speaking to yourself with a critical and negative inner voice? Maybe you've noticed you tend to beat yourself up over small mistakes or constantly put yourself down. Is perfectionism a driving force in your life? It can feel overwhelming and exhausting. But what if I told you that there's a way to change that inner voice to one that is supportive, caring, and compassionate?
The truth is, speaking to ourselves with a supportive inner voice can be a difficult task. It's not something that we are taught in school or by others, although we may have been influenced by others. Often we have to learn it on our own. Additionally, it can be challenging to change our thought patterns and habits, especially if we’ve been speaking to ourselves negatively for many years. It might feel strange and uncomfortable to speak to ourselves in a positive way if it’s not a habit we’re used to.
So, why is it so challenging to speak to ourselves with a supportive inner voice?
There are several possible causes, but three of the most common are:
1. Past Trauma: If you’ve experienced trauma in the past, it can be difficult to trust yourself and your thoughts. You may have developed a negative inner voice as a way to protect yourself from further harm.
2. Low Self-Esteem: If you struggle with low self-esteem, it can be challenging to speak to yourself in a positive way. You may believe that you are not worthy of love, success, or happiness, which can make it difficult to see yourself in a positive light.
3. Negative Influences: If you have been surrounded by negative influences, critical people or peers, so it can be challenging to break free from that cycle of negativity.
There are solutions to these challenges. Our June workshop covers this in depth and I hope you can join us. In the meantime, here are two possible solutions:
1. Self-Compassion: Practicing self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a friend. This means acknowledging your mistakes and flaws while also recognizing your strengths and positive qualities.
2. Positive Self-Talk: Positive self-talk involves consciously replacing negative thoughts with positive ones. For example, instead of saying, "I'm so stupid for making that mistake," you could say, "I made a mistake, but I am learning and growing from it." Aroma Reset is your #1 tool for adjusting negative thoughts and emotions. My reset is a daily practice and I suggest that for all my clients.
Speaking to ourselves with a supportive inner voice is not always easy, but it is possible. By practicing self-compassion, doing Aroma Reset and positive self-talk, we can rewire our thoughts and learn to treat ourselves with the care and compassion that we deserve. So, I encourage you to try it out for yourself and see how it feels. How does speaking to yourself with a supportive inner voice change your mindset and outlook on life? Let me know in the comments below.

My course or upcoming workshop helps you learn practical tools for practicing self-compassion and positive self-talk. Join us and take the first step towards rewiring your thoughts and treating yourself with the care and compassion you deserve.

Inner Critic Masterclass/Workshop June 2023

Calm Your Inner Critic Course

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