Empowering Messages from Dee

Healthy boundaries create strong relationships and foster healthy interconnection. With healthy boundaries, two individuals know themselves and each other and can connect, support, grow, and change. There is connection and space, togetherness and individuation, and interdependence rather than either codependence or independence. Relationships like this flourish and create open, honest, and authentic communication.

This idea of neuroplasticity isn't new to those versed in scripture, although it seems like a new buzzword to many. Neuroplasticity is the ability of neural networks in the brain to change through growth and reorganization. Some also call it "rewiring our brain."

We think our memories are about the past. However, our brain and nervous system use this information to evaluate and assess our present. Those memories also influence our current beliefs and ideas, plus form our thoughts about future outcomes and possibilities / limits. 

We begin an upward spiral by addressing one of these three key areas. With emotional balance and a supportive inner voice, we set boundaries with ease, set and reach goals. Which one is your greatest challenge? Let's start with bringing that one into balance so you can start your upward spiral!

What if you could back up and notice your emotions before they escalate? What if you heard their message and could address the situation quickly and easily, neither stuffing emotion down nor letting emotion spill out? Wouldn't that be great? What would your life look like flowing in peace? Does that sound good?

You may have heard the poem “Your mind is a garden and your thoughts are the seeds, you can grow flowers or you can grow weeds” and I have a pallet painting with that quote - one of my favorites I've lived by all my life. An still I found ... 

Could you use a lift? Does life sometimes feel overwhelming and heavy? How can you tap into more joy?

 

Early 2020 was a challenge for me, as it was for mostly everyone everywhere. To help me overcome my challenges, I researched, looked into the science and compared what I found to the scriptures. Learn how gratitude rewires your brain, increases serotonin and dopamine and what that means for your mental, emotional and physical health. Complimentary mini course link in the post.

Do you experience random aches and pains? Are gut issues an ongoing problem for you? Both were true for me as far back as my preteen years. That’s a long time! Do you know what I found out that made a big difference for me? We are, as humans, interconnected parts. They ALL must be well for the whole being to be well and feel well.

Last week I had the honor and pleasure of talking with Michelle Newman on The New Mid podcast. Her podcast is ranked #7 in "Top Ten Valuable Podcasts for Midlife Women". Listen in on our discussion and learn more about her podcast

Do you struggle to keep up the pace? Here's what helped me

Do you have difficult memories? Have you put them in a box in your mind and try to keep the lid closed? What if you had a way to let go of the emotional attachment and inner story connected to those memories? How free would you feel?

Did you know I used to think of myself as an introvert? Do you feel free and open to people, or is it scary? Do you warmly welcome interaction with others? Do you feel comfortable with most people? Do you feel fully supported by those around you? Do the people you interact with daily empower and lift you? If not, what can we do about it? Do we have a measure of control? Here’s what I learned.

These tools are various practices based on healing our nervous system and restoring us to a state of calm. All these tools are excerpts from various workshops and classes. 

Use this tool to guide rhythmic breathing while you do your reset. It will calm your nervous system and is a good guide during your reset if deep, calm breathing is challenging. You can also use 1:1 breathing to downregulate your fight / flight or upregulate if you're in freeze / shutdown / numb. 

There's an app that has adjustable settings you may enjoy for your mobile device called Kardia. 

Check the App Story or Google Play Store

It looks like this:

When our fight / flight activates, it pushes us to disconnect if it goes on too long. It can also activate panic if we do not respond to our nervous system's prompt to self-protect. 

We begin to disconnect from our body and from the present time as our brain pulls us back in time. Our survival brain does not understand time and actually believes we are experiencing that past situation

Sometimes we didn't tune in soon enough. My emotional balance course and workshop teach how to do that. Notice what signals you missed. 

Maybe we're used to stuffing it down and push through. See the section on how our nervous system works in this member vault. 

Sometimes we are not in a position to do something like having a panic attack in our sleep.

This is one of many techniques I teach to help you come into the present time and space, pull you out of that disconnect. Aroma Reset also does that - connects you back to your whole self, mind, body, emotion. 

Rest assured fight / flight and freeze / numb are exactly how our nervous system is supposed to function. It is functioning as designed. Learning to tune in at the lowest levels is crucial to our mental, emotional and physical health because our mind / body / emotions are all part of the same system. They are interconnected and designed to work together. 

How would your life change if you experienced improved self-esteem and felt more hopeful, optimistic, and encouraged to believe in yourself? How can we increase our feeling of hope? Are the changes we experience resulting from being pushed by our problems so that we have no choice? Or is our change pulled by our dreams because we choose it to be?

Can fear be your ally, a good thing? Is there ever a time we can say "thank you" to fear? I didn't used to think so and here's what I learned when I reflected...