Givers Giving Themselves Away - Caretaking vs. Caregiving

Givers Giving Themselves Away - Caretaking vs. Caregiving
Caretaking vs caregiving. Is there a difference? Why does it matter? About 30 years ago, I was talking to a friend about how exhausted I was from taking care of several situations. None of them were really my situations, yet I felt as if I owned them, that they were mine to bear. Have you ever felt that way too?
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How do you nurture and take care of yourself?

How do you nurture and take care of yourself?
Self-care and self-nurturing are vital to our emotional balance and mental wellbeing. During times of stress it's even more important. We can't pour from an empty cup. We can't drive on an empty tank. Believe me, I know, I tried. It didn't turn out well. What is self-nurture? How is that different than self-care?  
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How to Stop Feeling Obligated

How to Stop Feeling Obligated
Have you ever said “I have to . . .” or “they need me to . . .?” Do you ever say you have to do something just because someone else wants you to do it? Maybe because they expect it to be done? Do you ever say yes to something and regret it later? Do you feel obligated to live up to others’ expectations? Here’s one simple tip
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What are Good Boundaries in a Relationship?

What are Good Boundaries in a Relationship?
Healthy boundaries create strong relationships and foster healthy interconnection. With healthy boundaries, two individuals clearly know themselves and each other and can connect, support, grow, and change. There is both connection and space, togetherness and individuation, and an interdependence rather than either codependence or independence. Relationships like this flourish and creates communication that is open, honest, and authentic.
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Are Boundaries the Same as Control?

Are Boundaries the Same as Control?
The #1 question about boundaries is "are boundaries the same as control?" Do you hesitate to create or enforce boundaries because you're concerned about being viewed as controlling? Why might some feel that way? Understanding the difference between boundaries and control is key to finding and maintaining balance and honoring your limitations.
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Seven Tips for Saying No Effectively

Seven Tips for Saying No Effectively
Does saying the word "no" cause you some anxiety? Does it seem confrontational or aggressive? It did for me likely because for most of my life, the word “no” was cause for confrontation and strong argument. So, naturally, I came up with ways to say no without actually having to say the word. Here's my very best tips plus a complimentary tip sheet and downloadable graphics.
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Four Little Words That Can Change Your Life

Four Little Words That Can Change Your Life
Why oh why are relationships so complicated? They don't have to be, understanding others is not complicated or difficult. Seriously so simple with just this these four simple words. Try this...
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How do you set boundaries without being rude?

How do you set boundaries without being rude?
Are gentle boundaries really possible? Can one voice a boundary without being rude? What do you think?

Over the next few weeks interactions with others may increase for some people in some parts of the world. Boundaries may become somewhat of a challenge to navigate. Sometimes it’s even more of a challenge to be able to voice a boundary from a place of gentle peace. Do you sometimes feel that way?
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What does it mean when people say who do you think you are?

What does it mean when people say who do you think you are?
What does it mean when people say who do you think you are? Children are born dreaming big dreams - think about the question "what do you want to be when you grow up?" What was your dream? When people say or convey the message "who do you think you are?" it's generally because
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